The Purpose of Life

The old spiritual mantra of Be Here Now needs up dating. Spiritual teacher Andrew Cohen, suggests this one: “Do Here Now.” Be Here Now was about stepping into the depth of our Being, truly becoming present, inhabiting this moment, tasting it to the fullest. It’s what Ekhart Tolle teaches in such classics as “The Power of Now.”

But is the purpose of life then to be in the moment? No! Just as the purpose of life is not to breathe. But if we stop breathing, we die. And if we are not present, well – we’re just not here. We’re missing out on all the gifts – the boons and the challenges. Which, of course, are often the greatest gifts of all. So we need to fully show up. And then what?

Ah the big question. Well it’s different for each and everyone of us, but the first thing to do is to really look within, and ask yourself – am I squeezing the juice from this luscious fruit called life? Of course, many of us feel like we just keep getting handed a plate of lemons. In which case, the saying goes, make lemonade.

What are you here to do? Are you using this precious human born life to it’s utmost potential? Dare you ask that question? Let me suggest if you don’t ask that question, and ask that question every day, one day, you’ll be dead, And at that point do you think you are going to say: geez, wish I had of watched another thousand hours of television programming? Or are you suddenly wake up to the realization – holy crap, I just missed my life!

The wonderful, amazing, expressive, activist artist Rha Goddess, who we interviewed yesterday for Redvolution, says that when she dies she wants her tombstone to read “DONE” – D. O. N. E.

In other words, she wants to reach the end of her road secure in the knowledge that she did everything she is here to do. That she stepped fully into her power. That she rocked the house. That she shined her light. That she stepped up, stepped out and truly loved. That she awakened to who she truly is.

You deserve nothing less.

There are no excuses to be made for missing the boat, really – we all have the potential within us, we are all Buddha’s to be. But we need to honour that seed within us if it is to flower. So an essential part of awakening to our full potential is to truly love ourselves. Yep, I know, easier said than done. Here in the west, we have an epidemic of low self esteem. All of us have to struggle with it. I know I do! It shows up in different areas of my life, at times, but when I shine a light deep into my unconscious, deep into that shadow zone, I can see a gaping hole where true self love should be. It’s an ongoing process, and I am getting better at it.

Note to self: self love is not about arrogance! Don’t confuse the two! A key distinction. In fact, self love is deeply humble, for you see all your spots, dots and warts, and still love them. Let go of any notion of perfection. Awakening does not mean suddenly becoming perfect. No, it means actually embracing your imperfections, forgiving yourself, and allowing yourself the room to grow. Awakening is a process, not an end point. There is no end point. But there is an aspiration – not a goal – but an aspiration, to fully grow into your potential. Which, like a rainbow in a field, will always move away just before you reach it. You don’t need to literally reach that rainbow, but you can keep your sights on it, and recognize that it is always there.

Friends can help! And you can help your friends. Parents, you can help your children – let them know how much you love them, how proud you are of them. Not for anything they do, not for anything they achieve, no that kind of validation, while temporarily thrilling, doesn’t actually mean much. True love is about just being loved for who your are, not for what you do.

Strangely enough, coming from that place of self love, of recognizing that you are not what you do, frees you up to truly “do” from an authentic place. You don’t “do” out of a need for validation, or to be loved. Whoa, that’s a big one for me. As a child who was bullied in high school, one of my shadow motivations for all my work is that need for validation. And yet, when it comes, it’s hard for me to actually accept it, because deep down inside, I had been taught by the bullies that I was nobody. I was no good. So there is a two fold challenge for me – let go of the need for validation, but accept it when it comes, embrace it, not because I need any proof that I’m a good person, but because I am a good person, that my true motivation springs from Love, and I deserve to be loved. We all deserve to be loved.

Each of us has our own issues to work through, our own ways to learn to love ourselves. One simple excercise is to stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself, for five minutes, thinking only positive thoughts about yourself. Forget about all the buddhist teachings about trascending the ego – for now. Just let yourself be loved. If you want to add an extra challenge to teaching, when you do think a negative thought about yourself, start over. Sheeesh, some of us could be there for hours!

So, you’ve done the work, you love yourself. Or at least your working on it! Now, how to find your true life’s purpose, how to figure out what your here to do?

Rha Goddess suggests that you start by going within – really look within. Throw out all the programs – all the advice from society, culture, all the people who have a different agenda from you. Let all that go! Your truth needs to come from deep within. You can look at the things that come naturally to you – what is it that you do that gives you joy, where time flies, where you don’t have to force or push? What are the things that people are coming to you to ask you to do? If you don’t know, ask your friends and loved ones – people you trust, but really ask them to set their own agendas aside. Be aware that this is sometimes difficult for people to do. But with love, the people in our lives can often can see our gifts, even if we can’t see them ourselves.

Then you need to look at how your gifts can be of service. To truly be effective as a life’s purpose, there needs to be an element of true service to your gift. How can your natural gifts be put into service? That’s key to a fulfilling life. Without service, service that simulatenously serves ourselves and others (people, other species or the planet), we will not have true meaning in our lives.

Finally, Rha says, decide to do it! Make the change, take the risk – now. There is no time to lose. Start the process, it may be baby steps at first, but start the process. Don’t procrastinate. Find out just what it is you are here to do, and do it! Unwrap your gifts, step up to the plate and shine. Because you’re needed now, you are truly needed now.



  1. Velcrow….I have copied these words (with your name at bottom) and sent them to everyone I have ever met in my life..

    Ok.. so that was a slight exageration..but I have sent them to lots of people.

    Bye the way…just how big is your pocket.


  2. Self love? Sounds great, but it’s easier said than done. Maybe the excercise with the mirror works for some people…but whenever I try to find some positive things about myself, my inner King of Shadow lashes out at me with so much hatred, that all I can do is retreat in panic. You have to know when your arch-enemy is stronger than you are.

  3. You know, I was doing the mirror positivity thing the other day – now I just try this out every once an awhile when I’m brushing my teeth or something – and the self love I found was not so much about me, but about the incredible miracle the human body is. To think that they made this out of stardust and stone – this incredibly complex system of systems, layers upon layers of complexity, all those neurons. Hell, just an eyeball – wow, what an invention. And the brain – sheesh, how’d they ever come up with that? There’s a lot to love about these human beings, a pretty darn amazing creation, in and of itself, and all that flesh and blood and bone wrapped around a soul – wow. Hard not to love something so amazing as that. Even if the particular model you have isn’t the same as the one on the cover of vogue, you gotta admit, it’s a pretty phenomenal invention.

  4. What a wonderful way of looking at the human body! It is indeed one of nature’s masterpieces! Even the Shadow King couldn’t argue with that and he had to hide in a dark corner, moping and mumbling incoherent threats. Unfortunately, most people (especially women) waste their precious time worrying themselves sick over the fact, that their particular model would never end up on the cover of Vogue, instead of celebrating the fact, that their type of beauty isn’t a cookie-cutter one and enjoying their uniqueness. But that’s a different story, and one of popular’ s culture deadly sins.

  5. Funny, I just opened my email to this mornrings note from the universe:

    “Just curious, Velcrow, when was the last time you looked into a mirror and addressed yourself as “Gorgeous,” “Magnificent,” or “Sublime”?
    Velcrow, it matters.

    Tallyho, The Universe

    You Are Adored!”


    I get these from htttp://

    Each one is different, but seems like quite a synchronicity that I am just moderating your comment, and two minutes later I get this note!

    Yes, our society is so effective at teaching us that we are not good enough in so many ways. And sometimes, ya we can only take baby steps, or look for ways to trick our “shadow kings” as you call it. The funny thing is, it actually doesn’t matter who you are or what you look like – most of us in this culture have such a problem with loving ourselves. Having all the beauty fame and money in the world didn’t help elvis or marilyn learn to truly love themselves. It ain’t easy, but perhaps little by little, step by step, we can get that inner judge to give us a break. Cause we are amazing, each and every one of us, there is no denying it.

  6. The worst thing is, that most of the time we end up internalizing those destructive messages we receive from society and we really believe there’s something intrinsically wrong with us. That’s why it’ so important to identify those negative influences, keep them at bay and tell them: “You’ re wasting your time, your reign of terror is over.” The other day I met a guy I went to school with. He was one of the bullies-in-chief and treated everyone who didn’t belong to his snobbish clique like garbage. I avoided their snide remarks by pretending I didn’t exist. When I saw him, my first reaction was to shrink and become invisible. But then, I thought to myself: “I refuse to be a victim! You don’t scare me anymore!” That message you got from the universe was perfectly right! Thank you for sharing it!

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